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How to date a white guy if you re black

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One night in Sydney, I was a little taken by a year-old woman in a gay bar. She was a chatty and congenial Aussie, with a distinctive no-bullshit edge. There are too many of those in Sydney… and Cape Town… and New York City… and pretty much everywhere with thriving gay nightlife!

She was definitely my kind of girl. And as it turned out, I was her kind of guy. One of the first things she told me was how attractive she finds black men.

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As I mentioned, we were in a gay bar. She had absolutely no ulterior motive and no shot with me. She was just making conversation, and she was doing most of the heavy lifting, so I let her flex her stuff. Actually, I find them more attractive than white people.

I also like white men. I find them beautiful, too. But I just find black people to be better looking. The men are just hotter. She must have read my mind when she made the disclaimer about finding white men attractive, too. I hate any kind of exclusive or discriminatory thinking when it comes to race and sex, even when it works in my favor. I have no problem with racial preferences. But in reality as well as on TV and in movies, the highest-profile interracial couples have been white women with black men.

I have a theory about white women and black men, and it goes a little something like this.

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However, once their curiosity is satisfied, their long-term behavior is probably less likely to be racially motivated. And I realize there are always exceptions. One can probably say the same thing about gay black men who date white men. Again, this is not a blanket theory. I once presented this idea to a friend a white guy who dates black men exclusivelyand he had an intriguing response. He said it probably has to do with the male emphasis on the physical.

Men are driven primarily by physical attraction when choosing a partner, while with women, other factors can play just as vital a role. I knew the woman I was talking to probably never would have been having this conversation with a white person. Clearly How to date a white guy if you re black was first and foremost a black man to her… a gay black man. But this was not a pick-up, so I let her continue.

She started to tell me about the guy she lost her virginity to 20 years earlier. He was black, and they remained great friends. Now here is where our interaction started to venture off the rails. She pulled out her phone and began clicking through photos. She wanted me to see him.

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Once she found the photo she was looking for, she was on a roll. She showed me a succession of recent pictures of her thenish first-timer posing outside shirtless because, well, why not?

She looked at me expectantly. Clearly she wanted to know what I thought… or more accurately, she wanted my approval… or my respect… or something. Maybe she wanted me to know that she had done well.

Not only did she love black men, but she could pull in the cream of the chocolate crop, one who had barely aged. I was neither impressed nor unimpressed. So I said nothing. I leaned in to hear How to date a white guy if you re black. Sign in Get started. "Because maybe black girls are your thing," I said. When I told the writers on the show I was dating a white guy from the South who drove a.

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Black girl? Here to friends, in particular hear accusations of white boy dating black girls? Sorry if your conversations. The web missing deep. I assume you want to date a black woman because you've seen all Because I like you and if you want in to the society of men who've. Don't be one of those white guys who says things like “I don't see race” that's stupid.

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